Yeh jo mohabbat hai…

11days have passes since 14th Feb. still I’m writing about it. bit off season you may say. but someone has said “pyar umr nahi dekhta” (e.g. Big B’s Nishabd etc etc...). So its independent of time. So writing about it can never be off season, right?

Read kau’s blog. N comments regarding defining love. So started thinking. So many things came to my mind. I’ll try to put them one by one without creating fuss.

There are subsets of love. Like crush, admiration, respect, liking n many more on same line. One may think these all things are part of a relationship. I think bit differently. Crush, as the name suggests gets crushed with time. Crush, according to me, is not matured. Its a feeling of liking without any support of deep thoughts. In simple words ‘TP’. Have seen very few people taking their crushes seriously. Admiration on the other hand, is supported with thoughts. We tend to admire people who are different from what we expect (in good sense of course). So admiration has a thought process attached with it. Respect, is some what similar to admiration but bit different too.

Then there is simple liking.( I know there is no complex liking ) we like someone for many /any reason. Mostly we have our friends on other end in this case. The charm of their personality, knowing them very well many times ends up in developing a liking for them. Sometimes it is just a liking, sometimes it is something more. Point here is, all the above mentioned things may or may not get converted into love. So how would I know if it’s a simple liking/crush/admiration or it has gone one step further?

Movie: Dil to pagal hai

Scene: SRK asking madhuri how wud he know who is made for him

Madhuri: “woh (god) tumhe ishara karega. Aur tum samajh jaoge ki kaun tumhare liye bana hai”

Dunno if it works in real life or not. It worked in reel life at least. But would like to believe this. For a simple reason of assigning a difficult task of identifying the love of my life, to the almighty. But nothing ends here. Rather everything starts here onwards. There is very narrow line of difference between love and other similar feelings. If a person whom we like/ admire becomes an unavoidable part of our life, if that person gives us a sense of completeness & as per above mentioned scene, if our heart says “yes that’s the one” then we can conclude, its love. U may say our heart is no different from our brains. But when it comes to emotional decisions, heart n head part their ways. So forget objective thinking n all. Let your heart do the decision making for you. At least in this matter…Fearing of heart-break?? nah... if at all it happens then let your brains do the further job. Its like a sine wave n a square wave. Heart thinks as smoothly n softly as sine wave. & head thinks sharply, as in case of square wave…sharp fall from maxima to minima… remembering CRO? Me too…

So these were my thoughts on ‘the famous subject’. Again I’m not experienced in this field..par duniya hum ne bhi dekhi hai. These thoughts of mine may or may not change with time, with experience…tab ki tab dekhenge… Ending this one with a belief in my mind…(again from dil to pagal hai )...'Someone somewhere is made for you’